As a solution focused therapist I know that when we focus on the problems in our lives, we remain trapped in the emotionally negative part of our mind that goes around in circles. But by allowing our focus to widen from the minutia of our issue to the grand scheme of things helps us step out of the grips of the habitual emotional mind and move into the intellectual space that contains the answers and wisdom that we need to be able to move our lives forward.
Solution Focused therapy is a forward looking therapy that focuses on finding the solutions in your life. The solutions to our lives can be found when we are able to detach ourselves from the actual problems that are gripping us. By moving into a detached observer position, we are able to gain some clarity over the situations we find ourselves in and see other possibilities that are available, via external help, resources or inspired ideas that can emerge within the space that opens up when we move out of the emotional mind.
The brain is divided into two mindsets, the intellectual mind and the emotional mind. The limiting emotions of fear or anxiety are designed to keep us checking out our lives for threats or danger, but as we know we are usually not really in the type of crisis or emergency that our emotional brain tries to convince us of, we are simply not being mindful. When we move out of the present moment, and what the mindfulness teachers describe as the “higher self”, we get pulled back in to the primitive part of the brain that is constantly on high alert, predicting and forecasting the future with obsessive risk assessment, or tracking back into the past, where previous templates of behaviour and patterns are repeated in order to keep us “safe”. The emotional part of our brain is certainly not exploratory, it wants to stay inside the comfort zone, and is reluctant to allow you to broaden your horizon with innovative thinking.
I use Solution Focused therapy to teach my clients to move out into this expansiveness and help you understand that you are not your primitive mind, but you are actually your intellectual mind. That part of your mind that knows calm, knows clarity, knows happiness and knows creativity, which is great for them, their job and at home.